He says he needs time...

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Registered: 05-15-2003
He says he needs time...
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Mon, 05-07-2007 - 10:05pm
Hi, everyone - newbie here and so glad I'm not alone in this!

My H told me almost 2 months ago that he is not happy anymore, with me or any other part of his life except our daughter.

Nadine - deenie1979

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Registered: 09-01-2005
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 10:27pm
Sorry you're having to go through all this. Talk to him and see if you can both mutually agree to a timeframe for a "break." Perhaps you could give him another few weeks to sort out his feelings. Perhaps he needs to time to appreciate what he has. I would definitely give him a date so that you are not left in limbo. I would also seek marriage counseling. If he won't go with you, then go by yourself at least. Hang in there....Belinda
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Registered: 05-05-2007
Tue, 05-08-2007 - 12:46am
I was just informed last week that my husband wants a divorce. He has been unaffectionate and distant for months. I dont think he has cheated but I think he has been losing wait and working on his "image" to prepare himself for bachelorhood. Anyway, I am feeling heartbroken too. He seems ready to move on and excited. We have been married for fifteen years. I was 20 when I married also, so no preaching from me. I know exactly how you feel when you say "lost without" him. I feel like I am in a surreal world. I cannot offer you advice but can offer you someone to go through this with. We need all the support we can get. I have decided to be civil and act as a friend would to my stbx. We have to live under the same roof for a while until the house sells. I was so angry and bitter for about two days but then I decided that was not how I am. It is helping me to not look at him in anger, and it is helping the kids ( i have two daughters) to not see us hating each other. Who knows what your husband is thinking right now. Men can be very unempathetic and self absorbed sometimes. Just take care of yourself and your daughter. Be a friend to him right now, and let him be. You cant make him come back to you. and you wouldnt want it that way anyway. there is nothing bad about you, I am sure. this is something he has to work out and if he decides to come back to you, then you have to decide if you want a husband who is this unsure of his commitment. I hope that doesnt hurt you to read, but I just want you to get in the mindset of doing what is best for you and your heart.
Take care and fell free to drop a line.