New..How do I do it??

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2007
New..How do I do it??
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Mon, 05-14-2007 - 4:36pm

I just told my husband on Saturday that I want a separation...we have been married for 6 years and have 2 little boys (5 & 2 1/2..I called an attorney friend today but haven't gotten a call back....what do I do next?

I know we have to sell the house because I can't afford it alone...and I don't know where we will live....I assume I will get some kind of support and I also work but how do I go about paying my bills without him?? do I file bankruptcy?? I don't know what to do??

any advise would be sooo helpful to me...I am glad I found this site...there are a lot of good discussions on this board.

Thanks

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-30-2003
Mon, 05-14-2007 - 8:30pm

Hi there. Welcome to the board.

I think you have already done the most important thing, and that is to get in touch with a lawyer. Get all of the legal information you can get.

Take some time to make a plan for yourself. Outline where you'll live for the next 6 months and how you'll manage it. Try not to make any assumptions about how much money you'll get in support and whatnot because you never know if that may fall through.

If you haven't, stash some money away in a personal account at a different bank and start making lists of joint expenses and accounts that will have to be dealt with. Get tons of records, anything you can- tax records, bank statements, retirement accounts, insurance plans etc.

Also, if you need to do anything big-ticket like fix a car or buy new clothes for the kids, do that before you split. No matter how well planned it is, running 2 households on the level of income that used to run 1 is a huge transition.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 05-14-2007 - 10:04pm

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~