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New Here and sad
| Mon, 05-14-2007 - 11:24pm |
Hello everyone, I think its a sad day when there are sites like this out here when you search divorce help in Google. I just found out on April 12 that my husband of almost 10 years is sleeping with my friend and hairdresser. I had a suspicion because he started tanning and jogging. This is a man who thought excercise was lifting the remote. I found out by reviewing our cell bills and confronting him. The really sad part is, the woman he is sleeping with is his best friends fiance. Im just in shock. He said he loves her and doesnt want to fix our marriage and to be honest I dont think it can be fixed. A part of me still loves him and wants to try and the other part of me wants to puke at the thought. I feel like I have been betrayed twice. We were high school sweethearts and had been together since we were 15, Im now 31. Im just sick and the strangest thoughts keep going through my head, was I not sexy enough ? Did I do something? Was I really that bad? I have never lived on my own, I went from my parents house to our house. So being on my own is scary and while Im ok financially and we have no kids, its just a weird, strange feeling. The only positive is that the woman he cheated on me with went back to her fiance, so now he is all alone. Does this feeling of absolute despair get better? Do you ever get over being scared. I found a good lawyer and I had him served..Im just sick about the whole thing. Can anyone share anyting positive for me to cling to?

You are Woman! Hear her ROAR!
You did nothing wrong! People cheat because of what's inside them not what's inside their partner. It's too bad that so many choose to cheat first rather than fix what's wrong, but I firmly believe that even the cheaters don't know what's wrong in the marriage.
The despair gets better. Find things that you've always wanted to do and do them! Focus on living day to day and the month to month and year to year will fall into place.
And remember to laugh every day!
~calla~ mom to rosie and gracie