NEWBIE HERE - NEED INPUT!
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NEWBIE HERE - NEED INPUT!
| Tue, 12-18-2007 - 1:56pm |
I'm new to this board, however not new to IVillage boards - they have helped me stay sane. However, now I am on THIS particular board because the conversation finally was had last night about our future. I am a betrayed spouse who has tried to re-build and has been on a rollercoaster for the last 1.5 yrs. I have finally come to the realization that I am not IN LOVE w/my husband, but I still love him.

Can't give you any advice since our stories are very different, but sending hugs. One thought, I guess, is to work through counseling, even if it is likely the marriage is over. It will help with closure etc. It also creates a process for the separation. Just a thought.
Sorry about the holidays ... do things you love to do for yourself. Don't assume he will be sharing, I guess.
Keep coming on by the board and check in.
M
Thanks M -
I appreciate the hug and warm thoughts. I left a letter this morning letting him know I'd really like to work through this as amicably as possible. You don't turn hateful to someone you have loved for 17 yrs! Or, do you? I'd love nothing more than to have our xmas be pleasant - not fake, but truly friendly and kind, ya know?