Can I get through this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Can I get through this?
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Sat, 12-22-2007 - 6:57pm

Obviously I'm new to ivillage and was looking for some support/others who know what I'm feeling since my husband doesn't seem to get it.


Brief History: My H and I married in sept 03.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2006
Sat, 12-22-2007 - 9:05pm

Heather,


Hi. I am sorry you are in this situation. I guess I had a few questions about the lack of intimacy or romance in your marriage. You say this happened right after you got married? Did it happen all of a sudden or gradually over a period of time? Have you asked your husband why he doesn't feel anything toward you romantically? What has he said?


I'd really encourage the two of you to see a marriage counselor. Go solo if he won't go with you. A professional can help you sort out what's going on and perhaps help you devise a way to talk with your husband about his (lack) of feelings for you. I know some husbands (and probably some wives) just "stop" being romantic after they get married like they don't have to be any more. (Some men figure they had to be romantic to get a woman to marry them but once they say "I do" they figure they don't have to do it any more.)


Let us know how you're doing.


CL-Wisdomtooth2020

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 8:13pm

Wow, ur story is basically mine.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 8:35pm

I'm sorry!


Isn't it funny how you feel like you can talk to somepeople but not others. I finally talked to my mom

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 8:43pm

you asked about our intimacy issues...I guess it was a gradual change.