Divorced a mama's boy?
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Divorced a mama's boy?
| Sun, 12-23-2007 - 2:01pm |
Hello,
I'm wondering if anyone divorced their husband because he was a mama's boy?
| Sun, 12-23-2007 - 2:01pm |
Hello,
I'm wondering if anyone divorced their husband because he was a mama's boy?
Correction:
Anti,
Hi. Welcome to the board.
People divorce for a variety of reasons. And yet all who divorce often feel the same way you do afterward: sad, regretful, and wondering why it happened at all. (Most of the time we think we can fix what's wrong with our marriages or come to some kind of compromise with a spouse who never does.)
You're entitled to mourn the loss of your marriage. It doesn't matter why it ended. It's a loss. Processing that kind of pain takes time and part of that loss is looking at what happened. You'll drive yourself crazy if you try to see what you could have done/should have done/would have done to keep your marriage together. So don't stay there too long!
I also suggest you find a divorce support group. There you'll find others who've gone through this experience and are struggling with the same issues. It might be cathartic for you to attend a few weeks. Then, you might feel better about moving on.
I also encourage recently divorced people to take the "after time" in a divorce to take care of themselves. Don't date again too quickly and learn from what happened. For you, that's taking a careful look at the relationships any future husband might have with his family. You'll know a
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
Shortly before we divorced my husband told me that I was "like the mother he never had".... He has a mother.... and I told him that I was his WIFE... and that if he had issues with his mother, he needed to talk to HER about them.... I was not his "mother".
Marriage is a commitment of a different sort.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~