XH contact this morning .....

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XH contact this morning .....
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Mon, 12-24-2007 - 10:45am

I am still amazed. Why?


Ave asked to call him to say Merry Xmas eve. I would prefer she do it now, whiel I am here with her, as opposed to tonite when she is with her cousins. He has NOT called her in 4 weeks, except for twice, & that was a few weeks ago. The only time they have spoken in the past 2 weeks is once, when she called him. & then again today.


I am still amazed. Why?


Ave asked to call him to say Merry Xmas eve. I would prefer she do it now, while I am here with her, as opposed to tonite when she is with her cousins b/c

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Mon, 12-24-2007 - 11:14am

I'm sorry to hear these things, its painful to watch.


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Mon, 12-24-2007 - 11:21am
I agree. & yes, the pscy absolutely said he had a character disorder including narcissitic & likely sociopathic. It just AMAZES me that he can take NO NO NO responsibility for anything. It IS all about HIM ... in his mind. & here this precious innocent loving child has been used like a pawn for so long. Sometimes i want to kick myself for not putting a stop to it sooner ... just saying "screw the system & the rules" & stopping visitation. It kills me to remember all he put her thru. But, i was trying to do the right thing, use the legal system as it is SUPPOSED TO WORK (but it doesnt) ... but thankfully, finally, I just did what i knew as a mom needed to be done. & it ended up working out in the end. Thank you so much for your support. I honeslty feel stronger than I have in all the years I was married to him & since, knowing that finally I have some one to back me up (the psyc). I will never let her put our child thru what he did the past 3 years ... NEVER!

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Mon, 12-24-2007 - 12:44pm
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Mon, 12-24-2007 - 2:33pm

Oh Rebecca...


I'm not at all surprised, so I'm right there with you... but I am incredibly sad right now, thinking of poor little Ave describing the glass door being shut... it eeriely reminded me of the whole jail visitation though the glass talking on the phonething... poor sweet Ave... she deserves so much better than this...


Your xh never ceases to amaze me... I mean, I should lower all expectations and expect only the unexpected, but somehow I just can't... Kudos for you for staying strong and I'm so glad that you have the psych's back up here...


I hope the psych and/or your attorney was bcc'ed on that email as well and that you are documenting all of this attempted contact, which I know you are... and the Christmas gift, seriously?

 


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Mon, 12-24-2007 - 3:55pm

I am always amazed Rebecca.... he just keeps on repeating the same patterns... so sad... and even "worse" is that Ave has already "learned" that she's willing to compromise herself to see him.... even though he's not doing anything toward being remotely positive for her.


Hugs to you and Ave.... hope you both have a wonderful Christmas.



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