HELP

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Registered: 12-27-2007
HELP
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Thu, 12-27-2007 - 8:06pm

together for 11 years, married for 5...no biological kids together.

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Registered: 12-28-2007
In reply to: scooter1227
Fri, 12-28-2007 - 4:26am
Wow, I know exactly what you are going through...look at the time on my email: almost 3 AM!
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Registered: 12-27-2007
In reply to: scooter1227
Fri, 12-28-2007 - 12:32pm
Yes.
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Registered: 12-28-2007
In reply to: scooter1227
Mon, 12-31-2007 - 2:01am

I'm so sorry. I understand exactly what you are going through. I wish he would just go ahead and sleep with her to see that she has nothing else going on differently than me. I have managed to feel slightly better by:
1. Staying really stupidly and overly busy with other things
2. Talking with friends just about every second
3. Working a lot at my job

I'm really trying to get myself emotionally seperated from this but God, it is just so damn hard to do. This stuff going on over the holidays is just to much. We are long distance and he doesn't even really want to spend enough time together to fix it, but also doesn't want to initiate a divorce. Tomorrow is New Years and then the 2nd is my birthday, that's the worse, then I figure I can get on with my life after that. I just don't want to feel pathetic and accept this treatment anymore. There is a world of fantastic people out there.

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Registered: 12-27-2007
In reply to: scooter1227
Mon, 12-31-2007 - 10:24am

Found out this weekend all about this "other" woman.

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In reply to: scooter1227
Tue, 01-01-2008 - 5:58pm
wow I know what you mean about the anger phase. I am so sorry. My husband is holed up at his parents' house "recovering" from this. WHAT? He has at the very least an emotional and at the most a physical relationship with someone else and needs to recover? So he doesn't even really want to get together to go to therapy or anything....we are long distance and this was our only real time to work this out. I just can't seem to get past this or feel better at all: I think you are also having that problem, scooter 1227, b/c there isn't a feeling or any resolution, respect, etc...
ugh.