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| Mon, 01-07-2008 - 4:05pm |
Hello all,
I have been lurking for a week and have decided to post because I think that you are all providing a wonderful support group and, if you'll have me, would love to join you
It has been almost a month since my husband told me that he wants a divorce.

Will we have you?????? YES!!!!!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Hi Flower,
Karen is right. Making new friends and establishing a new routine will help you feel less dependent on your husband for your sense of balance and wholeness.
You don't say what culture your husband is from. Regardless, I suspect he's "changed" in your eyes because he's no longer the idealistic college kid (and neither are you). As we age our perspective changes about the world. (I know plenty of people who were "swinging liberals" in their 20s who are now "devoted conservatives" in their 40s).
What I also suspect is your husband is looking around him and comparing his life with others. That's natural because we live in a culture that's constantly throwing "newer, better, faster" in our faces. It's hard not to wonder, "Gee, am I really living the life I want?" Some take that and make their own lives better; others aren't so strong and crumble to the latest fad.
I would encourage you to take Karen's advice and to see a counselor for yourself. You need objectivity and a professional can help you sort through your feelings, needs, and wants. It will give you perspective on your marriage and help you decide what to do.
This isn't easy or simple, but you have the power to help yourself.
Good luck,
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
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