Does the pain get better?

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Registered: 06-04-2003
Does the pain get better?
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Sat, 01-19-2008 - 2:02pm

Hello All Im new here. It's not

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Registered: 06-20-2007
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 11:09pm

I went through many of the same things that you describe. Getting married too young--discovering infidelity. I also had alcoholism thrown in the mix. I stay for too many years, (24) but things are finally getting better for me. My ex was very controlling and emotionally abusive. He clashed with our son who is now 22 and who still is getting his life straightened out. It's hard on the kids, that's for sure--but it's also hard on you.


They say divorce is almost as hard as the death of a child and I believe it. My divorce was final less than a year ago. I got cheated financially in many ways. But I'm glad to be out of an unhappy marriage that was dragging on forever.


It sounds like you had some good years in your marriage. All I can say is have faith in yourself and keep in mind that time will help to heal the broken hearts that are caused by divorce. I think that life is too short to stay in an unhappy marriage so try to get rid of any guilt you may be feeling.


Don't get into new relationships for awhile, but see if you can find other women to hang out with who have been through similar experiences. I know I'm looking for a singles group right now for an occasional night out for fun because it's easy to get caught up in kids and work. You need to treat yourself well and be kind to yourself so hang in there and best of luck.

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Sun, 01-20-2008 - 1:14pm

I've been divorced for almost one year now--March 2, 2007.