He is moving out tomorrow

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Registered: 05-24-2006
He is moving out tomorrow
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Fri, 01-25-2008 - 1:54pm

Hello


My husband and I are separtating. We have basically been separated for months, he has been sleeping downstairs in the spare bedroom. He is a truck driver so he doesn't come home unless he needs to and goes to his friends house on the weekends most of the time. Tomorrow he is offically moving out. Today, I am in the worst mood and feel like crying constantly. I haven't felt this way at all though all of this. I know us separating is a good thing etc. I didn't think it would hit me so hard today.... Doesn't help that I have to work tonight and tomorrow night.


Allison


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Registered: 02-28-2007
Fri, 01-25-2008 - 5:59pm

Allison,


I know it is hard but it is probably better that you have to work.

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Registered: 03-11-2006
Sat, 01-26-2008 - 6:51pm

Hi Allison, my husband moved on on Monday...this is our 5th day without him here. The first 2 I was devistated, even though he's been on the couch for 9 months and we've talked it to death, him actually leaving was so hard for me. I did a lot of talking to my mom (who's also my best friend) and my girlfriends and kept very busy. No sad music, sappy movies, no sitting around thinking. I HAD to stay on the move. By yesterday I was feeling pretty good. Today I went through all the closets getting rid of stuff and organizing, cleaned the fish tank, baked cookies with my sons....anything to keep moving. I'm sure there are many more tears ahead of me as I work through this. It really is like a death.


I know it's hard, remember to practise self care....do whatever makes you feel loved and cherished, a bath, a massage, exercising, going to a book store. Reach out to people who love you. Big hugs.