1)DO NOT take him back on a whim or a promise of "it will be better." He keeps his own place; you keep yours.
2)NO SEX.
3)Your BOTH attend marriage counseling together and separately. This is very important because the issues that caused him to leave and you to be left are still there. Divorce hasn't changed that. So don't be lured into thinking he's changed. (You even said "I'm the same person.")
4)If you feel counseling is resolving issues, bringing them to light, and he seems to be truly commited to being a participant in a relationship
I cant imagine loving someone so much which I did in my relationship with my ex..i felt i did all the loving, and he would continue to build up walls to push me out of his life because of his insecurities.
Hi Gal,
Oh dear. The tangled webs the Exes weave!
To reconcile or not? Here's my blunt advice:
1)DO NOT take him back on a whim or a promise of "it will be better." He keeps his own place; you keep yours.
2)NO SEX.
3)Your BOTH attend marriage counseling together and separately. This is very important because the issues that caused him to leave and you to be left are still there. Divorce hasn't changed that. So don't be lured into thinking he's changed. (You even said "I'm the same person.")
4)If you feel counseling is resolving issues, bringing them to light, and he seems to be truly commited to being a participant in a relationship
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
I cant imagine loving someone so much which I did in my relationship with my ex..i felt i did all the loving, and he would continue to build up walls to push me out of his life because of his insecurities.