Planning to leave...need advice on lawye
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Planning to leave...need advice on lawye
| Sun, 05-18-2008 - 10:49am |
I am in an emotionally abusive marriage, I am also on the domestic abuse board, but thought I would get on here for some kind of advice as I know this is going to turn into a big custody battle and also I am afraid that my H will try to do something to harm me (he has threatened to kill me if I leave him and I don't think it is just a threat)
I have found a lawyer in my county but they want a fee of $90 an hour or $45 per half hour.

Emmy,
Hi. Please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). This is 24/7. They can help you make an escape plan and find resources to assist you in getting away safely.
Please call this number as soon as you are able and get out of the house.
Your first concern is getting away safely. Divorce issues can come later.
God Bless,
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
Whether a lawyer does a free consultation or not has nothing to do w/ how good they are.
Hey there EmmyBearsmom,
Ok I kinda can relate to you on this emotionally abusive situation. I have a soon to be ex H that was similar in emotional tatics. But he isn't as severe as your H sounds. I don't much on lawyers but my advice is try to contact a womens safehouse in your town or call that domestic abuse hotline that another replier gave you. The best thing to do now is stay safe and stay uplifted. God will get you out of this marriage, because you deserve better than that peice of scum you deserve to live a better life than that. And if you have any regrets on what you are doing, don't it will be his loss not yours. He can't be a better person until he hits that low that he realizes what kind of butthead he really is and makes a change. It may never come though, and as far as his son, I can understand how he'd get involved in marijuana, my H was too, it's a way they try take the stresses of life away. My H got caught and it's a matter of time his son will too. My best advice is not to look the other way but (when you get into a safer environment that is) talk to him about his use. But before that do some research on how to talk to him, because sure as heck he will try to deny his use like my H did. It's a sad addiction and it's sad that men like your H think they can treat women like that. But they do it out of their own insecurities, they figure they can't control whatever those insecurities are so instead of trying to change and be better they try to control what they think they can....his family....you....whatever he can. I don't know what else to tell you sweetie other than what I have, and that even if we don't know each other I shall be praying over your situation, because I know how it feels to be abused emotionally (as well as physically unfortunatly). So please stay strong and keep safe you are in my deepest of prayers as a fellow mom. Godbless darling.
AngelBugs_Mama
AngelBug's Mama
So sorry you are going through this!
But you DO need to worry about getting out safely before worrying about a lawyer.
This is what I found out during my "free" consultation: