Great weekend w/o him

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Great weekend w/o him
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Mon, 05-19-2008 - 10:46am

I had a really fun weekend NOT spent w/ STBX.

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Registered: 03-30-2008
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 8:00pm

Music, I can so relate...I am only now realizing (after being out from under the control of the evil empire ... you know, H) that I've wasted so much time. And his ways, thoughts and actions are SOOO weird, crazy, useless, etc. Hang in there! Glad you had a fun weekend. I hope things aren't too stressful with you DD being home and him still being there.

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Registered: 11-22-2001
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 11:47pm

I remember after being separated a few months from my ex, many people commented on how the "old Debbie" was back. I had no idea I changed so much, but I guess I did.


Keep on doing so well. Hopefully things will start moving for you (and he will move out). You're going to be OK...


Deb

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Tue, 05-20-2008 - 1:53pm

I'm glad you had a good weekend. I find that too, that I'm trying to do more things on my own and I've received comments as well, that the "old me" is back.

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Tue, 05-20-2008 - 3:28pm

We are in the same house & still in the same room, just because neither one of us wants to sleep in an uncomfortable bed, although he keeps saying he is going to move into the other room.

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Tue, 05-20-2008 - 4:09pm

It's amazing how liberating a feeling it is knowing that you are done with the marriage, however, I do feel extremely guilty sometimes knowing that he thinks I'll change my mind.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 05-20-2008 - 4:16pm
I felt guilty at first, mainly because he has a mental illness and I felt that some things weren't his fault, for ex, he tried to go get medicaiton and therapy, but was it his fault if the meds they gave him didn't work right?
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Registered: 04-09-2008
Wed, 05-21-2008 - 9:24am
Good point about the changing behaviours. I have a hard time believing that the changes my husband is making will be permanent.