About done

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Registered: 05-20-2008
About done
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Wed, 05-21-2008 - 3:27pm

Back and forth we go. I keep asking him if he gets it. He doesn't. I am a biatch, I am mean to our daughter.


He is totally uninterested in me-the most he communicates is when I *do* something wrong. I have left before on numerous occasions. He doesn't even call. It's as if the remote control unit for the television has disappeared. He is totally uninterested in my life, my interests, my concerns. My daughter-per my other posts-is a total pain the the butt. She has threatened to kill me, last month she beat me. He blames me and I should just *get over it*.


I can't believe I am here. I've been married to this man for over 29 years. Three kids-26, 23 & nearly 18. He never criticized the way I parented before-why now? The two boys are

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: georgiagal1
Wed, 05-21-2008 - 7:39pm
Find a counselor to help you decide what to do, and lead you to the direction to take next.
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Registered: 04-27-2008
In reply to: georgiagal1
Wed, 05-21-2008 - 10:25pm
I agree with ilady
You need to get into some counseling and get away from the abuse. I don't know what the help is that is available in your area, but I'm sure you qualify for something. Please go and seek that immediately. No one deserves being physically (or emotionally) abused. It doesn't matter how long you have been married to this guy, he should NOT be condoning it in any way shape or form. As far as you "DOing" it to yourself, you should remind him that you are not beating yourself up (at least not physically). Keep us posted, and please, go and get the help you deserve!!
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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: georgiagal1
Thu, 05-22-2008 - 12:02pm

From what you have written, I can't see one good reason why you should stay in that house.