Is divorce really the answer here or is taking responsibility for your own happiness the answer?
I always ask these questions when someone says their husband "isn't a bad guy." So what is the reason you want a divorce? Have you sat down and thought it through? Are you expecting your husband to keep you entertained/busy/happy/growing?
I'm sure you're bored. I was a SAHM for most of my marriage, and I was definitely bored. Also, my husband was very critical and has a negative spirit. But if you say your husband's a good guy, do try to get his attention to make him understand how you're feeling.
I just posted about a book I'm reading called "Sacred Marriage" - Read that before you think about really leaving - first of all, being a single mom is no fun. Been there, done that. You think there are so many great guys out there just waiting to sweep you off your feet - wrong. lol - most of the great guys are already married.
*If* you do find the love of your life that sweeps you off your feet - you will find problems/issues w/them as well - maybe even more - especially since you are looking at blending families.
I'm w/the people who say if he's not abusive, putting you & the kids in danger etc. - then stick it out. It may simply be that you have some growing in your own skin to do - and rather than looking to change external circumstances, you just need to change something on your insides.
All I know is that divorce is a selfish move unless you are simply in a situation that is completely out of control & harmful. Are your kids happy? If so - you had them & they should be your #1 priority for at least 18 yrs. Otherwise I'd say - sure, go at it on your own & find out the hard way ;)
And if your financial situation etc. isn't great - what are you really bringing to another situation other than more problems - get your own life in order before thinking you think you are going to add to another's.
Leaving is not easy when your in that financial situation.
Are you sure that your DH won't be able to cover you on his health ins. after the divorce?
Nicker,
Hi. Frankly, you sound bored.
Is divorce really the answer here or is taking responsibility for your own happiness the answer?
I always ask these questions when someone says their husband "isn't a bad guy." So what is the reason you want a divorce? Have you sat down and thought it through? Are you expecting your husband to keep you entertained/busy/happy/growing?
Here's a couple things to chew on:
1)Love is
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According to our policy (I read it) in order to be considered an "eligible" dependent we have to be married.
Wisdomtooth,
That was great advise & so true!
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They don't - lol.
I just posted about a book I'm reading called "Sacred Marriage" - Read that before you think about really leaving - first of all, being a single mom is no fun. Been there, done that. You think there are so many great guys out there just waiting to sweep you off your feet - wrong. lol - most of the great guys are already married.
*If* you do find the love of your life that sweeps you off your feet - you will find problems/issues w/them as well - maybe even more - especially since you are looking at blending families.
I'm w/the people who say if he's not abusive, putting you & the kids in danger etc. - then stick it out. It may simply be that you have some growing in your own skin to do - and rather than looking to change external circumstances, you just need to change something on your insides.
All I know is that divorce is a selfish move unless you are simply in a situation that is completely out of control & harmful. Are your kids happy? If so - you had them & they should be your #1 priority for at least 18 yrs. Otherwise I'd say - sure, go at it on your own & find out the hard way ;)
And if your financial situation etc. isn't great - what are you really bringing to another situation other than more problems - get your own life in order before thinking you think you are going to add to another's.
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