1)Couples counseling. If you haven't gone, I encourage you to go. Especially since your daughters will be out of the house for a month. Take advantage of that time to get some help. Go in the spirit of discovery not the idea you're going to "fix" someone. A professional can help you both identify and talk about your issues and suggest ways of dealing with them.
2)Counseling for your daughters. Someone (you or your BF) are allowing these girls to get away with their bad behavior. Time to stop being the doormat and be a parent. A professional counselor can also help you be a better parent and identify ways you are sabotaging your marriage via step-children.
3)You say your daugthers don't "get away with" their bad behavior with their father. Perhaps they should live with him full-time until 18? A painful thing for you perhaps, but it makes sense they will be better disciplined and allow you and your partner to work through what's troubling your relationship.
You don't say if you're married but breaking up with someone after so long can feel like a divorce. I highly recommend if you do split, you visit an attorney to establish any rights regarding custody/visitation and child support for your daughter.
Good luck,
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
Some commonly misspelled words on this board:
You're = contraction of "you are"; You're going away?
Lisa,
You sound a lot like me. It is hard when times are not all bad. I was with
Lisa,
Hi. Glad you found us here.
My suggestions:
1)Couples counseling. If you haven't gone, I encourage you to go. Especially since your daughters will be out of the house for a month. Take advantage of that time to get some help. Go in the spirit of discovery not the idea you're going to "fix" someone. A professional can help you both identify and talk about your issues and suggest ways of dealing with them.
2)Counseling for your daughters. Someone (you or your BF) are allowing these girls to get away with their bad behavior. Time to stop being the doormat and be a parent. A professional counselor can also help you be a better parent and identify ways you are sabotaging your marriage via step-children.
3)You say your daugthers don't "get away with" their bad behavior with their father. Perhaps they should live with him full-time until 18? A painful thing for you perhaps, but it makes sense they will be better disciplined and allow you and your partner to work through what's troubling your relationship.
You don't say if you're married but breaking up with someone after so long can feel like a divorce. I highly recommend if you do split, you visit an attorney to establish any rights regarding custody/visitation and child support for your daughter.
Good luck,
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
Some commonly misspelled words on this board:
You're = contraction of "you are"; You're going away?
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
Hi Cl.
Thanks for your reply also and you have mentioned some valid issues.
My twinsdds don't like him, because it is an excuse for their mood, he isn't there dad.