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| Fri, 05-30-2008 - 10:02am |
I just had to come here to vent since my so-called friends and my family are sick of hearing it. I still have not made up my mind, but it's looking more and more like divorce is imminent for me. This past week was such a frustrating and upsetting week for me. We had my family over to celebrate Memorial Day. I had a lot of homework, so H had to do most of the preparation and cooking. He put the kids to work, so try not to feel too sorry for him. Anyway, I don't know if he was resenting the fact that he had to do all the work or what, but he spent the entire weekend avoiding me and the kids ... except for DD who is 3. He didn't say one word to me all weekend. Then DS had a hockey game on Weds. H came with us, but spent the entire time on the opposite side of the arena from us. So he was choosing to shut us out like always, only being a little more obvious about it than usual. Well, his parents are coming in from out of town this week. He talked to his mom on the phone last night, and afterward he started goofing around with DS. Then he wanted to chat with me about whatever. I feel like he ignored us and shut us out all week, and now he is feeling happy about his parents coming to town and wants to be a part of our lives again.
Is it wrong of me to feel resentful that he thinks he can open and shut the door on us at will, and we're all supposed to just respond accordingly?? You know, I can understand how he might be a little upset at having to prepare for my family this weekend, but I look at all the times when I did the same for HIS family. I busted my butt cleaning and getting everything ready and making sure everyone had everything they needed

My husband would do the same thing with me and our kids....in front of his family and friends he was perfect, the model husband and father.....behind closed doors an abusive person, in front of my friends he'd pick fights, with my family he started avoiding them and showing his true colors......I'm glad I don't have to deal with that anymore....
I'm sorry you're going through this, maybe you can fake being up while he's up....to make you feel better.
Thanks. Maybe if I fake being up while he's up, he will go down and show his true colors. Then his family will see what a jerk he is, too, and I won't look like such a witch.
I'm sorry you went through what you did. That must've been so awful. At least you are out now.