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Left and Lonely
| Sun, 06-01-2008 - 10:34pm |
My husband told me he wanted a divorce and left monday night. He has not been back since, although we have spoken on the phone a few times. Things were hard from the very beginning and they only got harder... except the past two months things had been much better, we had been talking to a pastor and things seemed great. He even told me how happy he was, he talked about the vacation we were going to go on at the end of August, we talked about having another child... now he tells me that all of that stuff wasnt how he really felt and that he was just trying to convince himself that it was. He told me flat out that he doesn't love me and will never be happy with me. We have a two year old daughter who I have practically raised myself due to his long work hours (gone for 16 hours a day) he really only saw her awake on Sundays. Im a stay at home mom, so now the days seem even longer knowing that my husband won't be coming home. He is staying with a friend he works with until he can figure out a way to get his own place. We were only married for 3 years (he is 21 and I am 24) and I dont want a divorce, I dont think its the right answer and I feel like my heart has been ripped out. He seems unaffected by the situation other than for the fact that he says he is upset because he has no place to live and that he misses his daughter. He says he is 100% sure of his decision and he needs to do what is going to make him happy. I feel that his a very selfish thing for him to be doing. Im just so upset about the whole thing!

Dear Left & Lonely,
I am in the same boat and you are not alone. When I saw your posting I felt so good to know that I was not alone.
I am 25 and my husband is 27. We to have a 2 year old
I'm a bit older than both of you, but my H did nearly the same thing.
Hey you two,
I would love to have you guys for friends and a support system. I understand men get stressed and need time to themselves but what about us. They do not understand what its like to be a stay at home mom! My heart goes out to you and your children since he is having an affair. I can barely deal with this let alone an affair.
All I've been doing is crying. He is my best friend, lover and business partner. I dont want to eat, go anywhere do anything! My heart is broken into two peices.
Now Im starting to sob....seriously email me and I would love to get to know you guys better.
Natalie
All of you young girls need to support each other individually for sure, how great you have touched base with each other. Remember that posting here as well is really helpful as well. There are a lot of us here who have had similar experiences and may have some advice to offer you. I for one am very thankful for this group...such a great one for so many people to support one another! Hang in there, and know there are many women backing you up!!
Hello,
How are you doing? Well I hope. Thank you for writing me back..you have been helpful...everyone has.
Well an update on me....my husband finally texted me yesterday asking to speak to our daughter. *Which I thought was immature that he couldnt call...he texted!*Anywho he called and after my daughter and him were done chatting I got on the phone and he doesnt really say anything to me! I was getting very irratated. After 3 days of not talking he has nothing to say to me? Seriously come on!!!! We ended up talking and he got mad and hung up on me. I called him back but he ignored my call and I left him a LONG voicemail telling him how I feel about things.
We have argued through out all of marriage. Everytime I want to talk about something calmly he overreacts and blows it out of porportion! I am thankful and *knock on wood*