Newbie...Its only been a week. So hard..

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Registered: 04-19-2006
Newbie...Its only been a week. So hard..
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Fri, 06-06-2008 - 9:40am

Well I do not know where to start. Its only been a week and it has been the worst week of my life. How do people go on? Im trying to keep busy but my mind wonders and I have my breakdowns throughout the day. Bedtime is horrible I keep his clothes in bed with me to get his sent so I can sleep. The worst of all of this is Im the one who ended it. I know Im greving and time will heal but I feel like im loosing it. Im sure im not the only one out there who is going through this and thats why Iam hoping to find others to talk to and help me get through this.


Maybe I should share my situation so I can get some advise from others:


I have been only married 4 years. I have two Teenage daughters age 15 and 18. The first year they liked my husband and after that things fell apart between them. I knew it wouldn't be a fairytale family situation but we worked hard at it. But my children just fought back and didn't want him in his life so he kept away. In doing that I feel things went worse. Well as time passed our relationship was wonderful with ups and downs like any marriage but we were definatlly emotionally connected and loved each other. But then my daughter went through a rough time (15 year old) she moved out for 6 months with boyfriends but always kept in contact. He hated her behavior adn caused tension between us. Then she called me 3 weeks ago telling me she is pregnant and was goign to live wiht the boyfriend. I was devistated. He was there to tell me so. Anyhow last week she calls crying I need to come home I have to come home please can i come home.


Meanwhile my husband said if she came back home he would leave but we would stay married, he just coudlnt handle the burden of it all. So when she called I asked him could she come back and of coarse she coudl but if it was perminate he had to leave.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 06-06-2008 - 11:23am

I am kind of in a similar situation to you in that I am in a 2nd marriage.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2006
Fri, 06-06-2008 - 11:57am

Wow we are almost in the same situation. This to is my second marriage and other than that he has no kids. Just me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 06-06-2008 - 12:26pm

I feel he got way to comfortable with her being away and it just being me and him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2006
Fri, 06-06-2008 - 3:34pm

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 06-06-2008 - 3:47pm

Actually we aren't even separated yet.