How do I get through this?

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Registered: 04-29-2008
How do I get through this?
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Thu, 06-12-2008 - 7:38am

I've been sitting here, trying to decide whether to stay or go, and, in the meantime, my marriage is getting worse, not better. I really think it is time to throw in the towel.


I'm in grad school right now, and won't finish my program for another year. I start my practicum

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 10:50am
Does your DH know how you feel or are you pretending that everything is ok?
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Registered: 04-29-2008
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 11:45am

He knows how I feel. I don't think he knows how certain I am about wanting a divorce, but he knows I've been considering it and he knows it is very bad between us. As for how he feels ... well, it would be nice if he would share that with me, but seeing as how he doesn't ever talk to me about anything I would have to guess. And I am tired of trying to guess how he feels all the time.


Really, at this point, I'm not concerned with how he feels anymore. I've made it very clear that I'm unhappy with the lack of communication between us .. which has led to a lack of emotional connection ... which is now making me want to leave. I've done everything I can to get him to talk to me. I'm tired of beating a dead horse. We've been married for almost 15 years, and if he isn't going to open up to me now, I don't see him ever doing it.


I just want some tips on how to get through this next year, knowing I don't want to be married to him anymore, but powerless to leave right now.

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Registered: 04-03-2008
Thu, 06-12-2008 - 3:19pm

Hi Lonely,


I know it's hard, and if someone had told me a year ago that I would have to live another year with my H (as I did wind up doing), I don't think I'd have been able to