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| Tue, 09-09-2008 - 9:44am |
I am new to this board and need some advice. I have been married for almost 3 years - and I have an 8 month old son. From the beginning - my husband has been a nice guy - but a very controlling and demeaning person. Since my son was born - I have basically done everything. I cannot go out by myself with girlfriends (this was how things were before the baby - worse now.) He will not watch the baby if I want to get my hair done, have dinner with my mom, etc. He does NOT trust me nor do I trust him - I am unhappy - and just want this marriage to be over with. I am so scared because I worry about him having my son on weekends, etc. We disagree a lot about how to raise him. My husband has a 14 year old son - from him first marriage - and he has him every weekend. I don't agree with the way - he and his ex have chosen to raise him (no I have to say in that - I have always been an outsider where he is concerned.)
I know I am rambling - I am just at the end of my rope. Our home is in my name and I want to be able to stay and keep it. His father lives with us (not my choice - his, again - I had NO say in the matter!!) I am going to be seeing a lawyer - but is it wrong of me to want him and his dad to leave once this is finished?? He has 2 other siblings - that can take the father in - am I mean to want him to leave too? I just have so much I am dealing with - that I can't even get my thoughts right - to type them here.
I know I am rambling - I am just at the end of my rope. Our home is in my name and I want to be able to stay and keep it. His father lives with us (not my choice - his, again - I had NO say in the matter!!) I am going to be seeing a lawyer - but is it wrong of me to want him and his dad to leave once this is finished?? He has 2 other siblings - that can take the father in - am I mean to want him to leave too? I just have so much I am dealing with - that I can't even get my thoughts right - to type them here.

Are you wrong for not wanting to have to take care of your FIL after you get divorced?
Hey.. you already got some great advice, but yes... talk to an attorney.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~