Need advice

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-13-2005
Need advice
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Tue, 09-09-2008 - 9:44am
I am new to this board and need some advice. I have been married for almost 3 years - and I have an 8 month old son. From the beginning - my husband has been a nice guy - but a very controlling and demeaning person. Since my son was born - I have basically done everything. I cannot go out by myself with girlfriends (this was how things were before the baby - worse now.) He will not watch the baby if I want to get my hair done, have dinner with my mom, etc. He does NOT trust me nor do I trust him - I am unhappy - and just want this marriage to be over with. I am so scared because I worry about him having my son on weekends, etc. We disagree a lot about how to raise him. My husband has a 14 year old son - from him first marriage - and he has him every weekend. I don't agree with the way - he and his ex have chosen to raise him (no I have to say in that - I have always been an outsider where he is concerned.)

I know I am rambling - I am just at the end of my rope. Our home is in my name and I want to be able to stay and keep it. His father lives with us (not my choice - his, again - I had NO say in the matter!!) I am going to be seeing a lawyer - but is it wrong of me to want him and his dad to leave once this is finished?? He has 2 other siblings - that can take the father in - am I mean to want him to leave too? I just have so much I am dealing with - that I can't even get my thoughts right - to type them here.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: intoodeep1
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 10:25am

Are you wrong for not wanting to have to take care of your FIL after you get divorced?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: intoodeep1
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 3:55pm

Hey.. you already got some great advice, but yes... talk to an attorney.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~