w/ child, seperating but still in love

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2007
w/ child, seperating but still in love
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Wed, 09-10-2008 - 9:13am

i have a question regarding me & my husbands situation at this time. we have been having some difficulty, primarily most recently during the pregnancy. so much so that we have discussed divorce and how to divide up the money and assets. the thing that i dont understand is that we are still in love w each other but also have a lot of resentment towards each other. he has done things that have hurt me and i have done things that have hurt him. so much so that when we fight we get very loud and angry with one another because of all the previous damage. when we talk rationally its a nice discussion, we may reminisce about the past but we inevitably fight like cats and dogs-angry and hostile and i dont want our child to witness this when he is born. not sure what to do to make it through this and how to get past what has occured to have

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 11:41am
Have you tried marriage counselling?