STBX is freaking out!

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Registered: 02-04-2006
STBX is freaking out!
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Wed, 09-17-2008 - 2:44am
So the STBX asked to come over to see the kids tonight. He has been out of the house for a week. He came over and we started talking. He asked me if we could be friends. I told him no. I don't have friends who play games, try to control me, or treat me the way he has been treating me. He just could not see why I would not want to be friends with him! He started going on about how I am going to screw him in our divorce and how could I do that. Then he went on to say how he never thought I would be the type to do that. He says he wants a divorce because he was not a good husband. I am convinced their is someone else. Since he told me a month ago that he wanted a divorce, he has been taking someone out every night and using our joint bank account to do so. I think he is realizing how much I am going to gain and how much he is going to lose and he is freaking out. We live in a community property state, I get half of everything. I want to file this week. How could I go a decade without noticing this guy is crazy?I pray everyday that I am not going to go through this the rest of my life!
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Registered: 03-30-2008
Wed, 09-17-2008 - 11:08am
The game playing is the worst! Hang in there. I know we'll all get through this eventually, I just hope it's with a shred of sanity when all is said and done. Hang in there.
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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 09-17-2008 - 11:55am

Sounds like he is trying to alleviate some guilt by trying to be your "friend". Too bad for him that you are smarter and can see through him. I hate games that these guys play but you can choose not to play. I do think that by even talking to him about something that is not kid related is playing his game. You owe him no explanation as to why you don't want to be his "friend". Hang in there!