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Registered: 09-25-2008
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Thu, 09-25-2008 - 2:04am

Hello there. I am new to the board today. I am sure my story is unfortunately alot like so many others. My husband and I have been married for going on 7 years we have one son together. I found out about

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-24-2006
In reply to: tree1031
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 10:35am

Dear Tree....


I am so sorry you find yourself here.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2005
In reply to: tree1031
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 10:40am

I am feeling alot like you right now...

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2008
In reply to: tree1031
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 5:23pm
I know exactly how you feel. My husband started having an emotional affair with a co-worker back in June and in early August I found him at her house. He moved out that day. He did not move in with her, but he did move to his brothers' house which is not that far from her. Anyway, I couldn't eat, sleep, keep my concentration on anything. I felt like an emotional wreck and I still do. I went to the lawyer today to start writing up the divorce, but I still want to stay married. I know he has slept with her - I caught him there again one day two weeks ago - at 7 in the morning - and his brother said he never came home that night. I cry every day. I have been married to my husband for 15 1/2 years and we have been together almost 17 years. The problem is I don't know him anymore. All he does is talk about himself and what he wants. He talks to our friends about how good he looks. We have 4 children, ages 12, 8 and twin 6 year olds. It's like he doesn't even realize how much he is hurting everyone. It is terrible to feel like you don't even know your spouse. At the same time, I feel like maybe if I could get him back to his old self, then we could be happy. I feel so bad for you and if you want to email and talk one-on-one please feel free. I really do feel for you. Everyone keeps telling me I deserve to be treated better, the problem is I thought I had a great husband and I miss him! I don't think I can get past that.