Scars

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Registered: 12-19-2001
Scars
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Thu, 09-25-2008 - 12:47pm

Okay, so I have come a long way since my stbx left me 8 months ago.

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Registered: 11-12-2004
In reply to: buckeyegold
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 2:09pm
Yeah, I can completely relate. I have been out of a horrible mess of a marriage for 4 years now, and I still am dragging around the baggage. Sure could use a luggage cart about now. Fortunately, or unfortunately I haven't had any relationships since, for no other reason than I have been terrified of men this whole time. You sound like you are doing pretty good though, to have a great guy that stands by you. Best yet, you know where your weakness is. You can focus on that and try to open up. I think with a patient guy you will do alright, if you just take it a little at a time.
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Registered: 03-30-2008
In reply to: buckeyegold
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 6:26pm

I can't tell you about burying the bad, but I did want to say I understand what you're saying. I'm not in a relationship, but I can just see in other aspects of my life, with friends and family, how it's soooo hard for me to let them in/open up. I think living with an alcoholic, and all his games and chit, and all the stuff I had to hide from my family & friends for so long, has made me always feel like a burden or want to continue to hide stuff. It's very difficult to let people past the barrier we've built up through the years because of our STBXs.


I'd have to think it's going to take time. I'm interested to read other's responses.


I'm glad your health scare turned out fine. And I'm so glad your relationship is going well. You deserve it!! Keep in touch :)