Does/Did Counseling Help You Move On?

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Registered: 11-27-2007
Does/Did Counseling Help You Move On?
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Thu, 09-25-2008 - 1:41pm

It has been a year and a half since I ended an 8-year relationship. Things are better, but I still have issues surrounding the split. My friends keep telling me not to waste my money on counseling/therapy, but then they aren't always around when I need to talk to someone and they may not always have the objective point-of-view I may need.

So I'm curious if counseling does/did help you move on?

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Registered: 09-22-2008
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 1:55pm

Waving my hands widely..yes..hell yes...Its a big help. An idenpendent party is a really good thing.


Irish Tom

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 09-25-2008 - 2:25pm
I think that if you still have issues after 1.5 yrs, then you would probably benefit from counselling. Do you have health ins? If so, you are probably only going to be paying a co-pay anyway and isn't your peace of mind worth spending money on? It's probably worth more than buying shoes or going out to dinner, in the long run. Friends can help you somewhat, but they aren't objective and sometimes it's better to talk to a professional.
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Registered: 07-16-2003
Sat, 09-27-2008 - 11:34pm

It would seem that just having the desire and courage to ask that question indicates that you may very well benefit from counseling.


The good part about counseling??? You have an opportunity to address your issues with not only the former mate. It can be a time to really understand how to simply BE. That is one of the advantages of counseling. Objective and focusing on what matters the most to you.


Having been divorced for 6 months following a 17 yr marriage and a separation of a year and a half... I have recently started counseling. Yes, my friends (the ones that have stuck around) have been an enormous help as have certain family members. While I appreciate all the support they have offered, they are too close to the situation to be objective.

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 10:03am

Viva,


Hi. Stop listening to your friends who:


1)Aren't suffering from YOUR

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