Should I leave?
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| Fri, 09-26-2008 - 8:19pm |
I've been married for 6 years! and I think the entire time I've been married my hubs and I have had sex about 15 times. So as you can see I'm very very frustrated, resentful and angry. I saw the signs before we got married but at that time it was all about the wedding..not the marriage. Two years into the marriage I suggested we go to counseling and get some help, but he didn't think we had a problem. I bottled up so much anger and emotions that now it's just over flowing and I want out. I rather be alone than in a sexless marriage and miserable.
We don't have any children, but I do want them. Up until a few months ago we were talking about it but a light bulb went off in my head. I thought "why am I going to schedule and pencil in time so we can procreate"? great, I get pregnant and life goes on as usual. Still miserable and still sexless.
I'm at the point where I don't want him to touch me. Everything he does and says gets on my nerves and I kringe at the thought of him with me. I have had many opportunities to be with other men during our marriage..but I didn't succumb. I also have had many partners before him so I know what I'm missing.
I finally told him how I was feeling a few months ago and threatened to leave. Then he starts crying and says he'll do anything to fix this, anything to keep me. (He's always been very insecure and needy). Anyways, we went to one session of counseling and the therapist decided I needed to see her by myself becuase she is convinced that I want out. I'm done.
After 6 years and not taking care of the problem sooner, i think I'm at the point of no return. Sure, i love him. But I am not in love with him. I am so disconnected from him that it's like I'm living with a roommate but we share the same bed.
His sister is getting married next week and her reception is next month. I decided to see an attorney after the wedding and break the news to him after the reception.
Any input would be great.
| Sat, 09-27-2008 - 8:31pm |
| Sat, 10-11-2008 - 9:01pm |
