He Said He Never Loved Me

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Registered: 07-10-2008
He Said He Never Loved Me
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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 12:49pm

Hi everyone,


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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 10-01-2008 - 1:54pm
I remember that my 1st DH told me that he didn't know if he ever loved me. I don't really think he was trying to be mean at the time, because he wasn't abusive during the marriage. Up to this day (12 yrs later) I really can't even understand why he wanted to get divorced. It's not like we argued a lot or anything and I think I was pretty easygoing about letting him go out & do his own thing. But I felt like saying "Gee, it took you 15 yrs to figure that out?" He was pretty young (22) when we got married, so maybe he was just immature. Luckily you only have 2 more weeks to stick it out being under the same roof. I guess you should just try to interact w/ him as little as possible, like only talk to him if the house is on fire!
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 10-01-2008 - 4:52pm

Hey... all that means is that he's so mad at himself for..... wahtever... that he'd rather attempt to throw daggers at you (or anyone, I'm sure) to attempt to make himself not feel so shallow.


Problem is... his attempts will backfire on HIM every single time, just making him feel worse in the long run.


YOU know when the happy times were... you know what YOU invested... and you know when he was.... throwing daggers all along the way.


Count down the days until you don't have to listen to him any more.... they're counting down faster than you know.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 06-06-2003
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 7:58am
Don't take it personally.