If she doesn't want to live together and rebuild the marriage then there is little you can do to make her. I would not deposit the next paycheck into that account. That
Why wouldn't your wife want to keep things the way they are now? She can continue to live the same lifestyle, not work and you continue to provide for her, but she doesn't have to do anything or put up w/ you, not that she had much to put up w/ before if you were never home. You are right that it isn't fair to you that you have no place to live. At minimum, you should at least be able to rent a room in someone's home so at least you would have a bed to sleep in and a semi-permanent place to live. (my ex first shared a house w/ 2 other men--one of the guys owned the house and rented out the 2 other bedrooms to 2 divorced guys, but they had use of the full house, kitchen, etc., so it wasn't that bad.)
You need to consult an atty & see how much child support would be based on your income and whether it would be likely that you would have to pay alimony, even for a short amount of time. Also find out if you wouldn't be able to continue your wife on your health ins. after the divorce, cause that's not always the case (in MA, where I live, health ins. companies have to continue the ex on the policy after the divorce). Then realistically think about how long it would take your wife to find a job. I assume that she hasn't worked since your child was born 3 yrs ago? What kind of job did she have before that? Is it something where she should be able to find something pretty quickly, what is the state of unemployment in your area, etc. I would think that 3-6 mos would be pretty fair, if you give her a warning that the gravy train is going to stop. If there is no desire on her part to ever get back together, I can't see remaining married either.
Dan,
If she doesn't want to live together and rebuild the marriage then there is little you can do to make her. I would not deposit the next paycheck into that account. That
Why wouldn't your wife want to keep things the way they are now? She can continue to live the same lifestyle, not work and you continue to provide for her, but she doesn't have to do anything or put up w/ you, not that she had much to put up w/ before if you were never home. You are right that it isn't fair to you that you have no place to live. At minimum, you should at least be able to rent a room in someone's home so at least you would have a bed to sleep in and a semi-permanent place to live. (my ex first shared a house w/ 2 other men--one of the guys owned the house and rented out the 2 other bedrooms to 2 divorced guys, but they had use of the full house, kitchen, etc., so it wasn't that bad.)
You need to consult an atty & see how much child support would be based on your income and whether it would be likely that you would have to pay alimony, even for a short amount of time. Also find out if you wouldn't be able to continue your wife on your health ins. after the divorce, cause that's not always the case (in MA, where I live, health ins. companies have to continue the ex on the policy after the divorce). Then realistically think about how long it would take your wife to find a job. I assume that she hasn't worked since your child was born 3 yrs ago? What kind of job did she have before that? Is it something where she should be able to find something pretty quickly, what is the state of unemployment in your area, etc. I would think that 3-6 mos would be pretty fair, if you give her a warning that the gravy train is going to stop. If there is no desire on her part to ever get back together, I can't see remaining married either.