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| Wed, 10-08-2008 - 12:11am |
I'm going through a divorce as a result of me having an affair.
| Wed, 10-08-2008 - 12:11am |
I'm going through a divorce as a result of me having an affair.
Ymgonza,
Welcome to the board. We hope you find support and advice here that you can use.
Here's my two cents.
Your friends can be supportive to a point. But, whether you realize it or not,
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
I think that part of the problem is just that people get busy w/ their own lives. When you have an initial crisis, they are there for you, then after a few months, they get tired of hearing about it and they have their own issues to deal with. Also, are most of your friends married? Do they have kids? I know that when you are single, it's harder to find time to hang out w/ married friends and sometimes they treat you like divorce is contagious. I find that even w/ my best friend (who I have known since high school) sometimes we can go even a few months w/o seeing each other, just because we are busy, we both work, we have kids and we live an hour apart, but we keep in more contact by email.
Instead of looking at dating sites, maybe you could join a gym, as the OP suggested, or join some kind of club doing things that you are interested in just to get you out & meeting new people. Or there are websites like meetup or linkedin that have a list of groups that you can join. I haven't used these services, but it seems like they have groups for every kind of interest and they aren't necessarily just for singles since people of all ages and married people can join. Or they have activities clubs, like where I live, they have clubs for younger people who like to ski or do sports and go out in a group, so then you are out and having fun & not focusing so much on the divorce.
I think before you get involved w/ anyone else, you have to look at why you married a guy that you were never attracted to.
for the same reasons I feel now, all my family is out of state and at the time, my Mom was saying how she wanted to move but stayed here to be with me so I wouldn't be alone.
If you're "truly" not looking for a romantic relationship than you should completely avoid dating websites.
I've been reading your response over and over again and you are right.