Never felt more lonely or helpless....
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Never felt more lonely or helpless....
| Wed, 10-08-2008 - 10:57pm |
I've been a lurker here and there, looking for discussions that might apply
| Wed, 10-08-2008 - 10:57pm |
I've been a lurker here and there, looking for discussions that might apply
What does your divorce decree say that he has to pay? For ex, I assume he has to pay child support. Does he pay alimony as well? Is he ordered to pay the mortgage or car payment? If the house & car are in his parents' names, then does that mean that their names are on the loan also? Then how would you be responsible for paying them? If the car is in their names & you don't like it, you could always give the car back, make him or them responsible for paying the loan & then buy a less expensive car. It's hard to understand the money part of it, not knowing actually what he is supposed to pay. But whatever it is, it doesn't give him the right to tell you what to do or argue w/ you. You don't even have to talk to him unless it's about the kids. Just take whatever money he's supposed to pay and stop communicating w/ him.
As far as a job, since your son is having problems, this probably isn't the best time to work full time unless your sister is responsible enough to take care of him and at 18, I don't know. Are there no jobs w/ mother's hours, like at McDonald's that you could get for now? Otherwise, since you don't immediately need the money, maybe you could use the time while they are at school to get some training so you could get a better job later, like get some computer training, take some college courses, etc. There are definitely programs available for women going back into the work force. Maybe you could start w/ your local community college.
You are right to check into whether you're depressed also. If you get out of the depression, then everything might not seem so hopeless and you can start your plan in working toward the future.