He won't take responsibility!

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2008
He won't take responsibility!
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Thu, 10-09-2008 - 3:16pm
Lord knows I made some mistakes in my marriage and hind is always 20/20. It seems as though me and my STBX keep having the same disagreements and fights about who was responsible for what. I honest to god have taken responsibility for my actions and even stuff he did. So far all he'll take responsibility for is "I should have tried harder". This man physically bullied me on 3 occasions and was emotionally abusive for the duration of the marriage. It's so infuriating that he will not take responsibility for what HE did. Why am I wasting this energy? Why is it so important to me?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 10-09-2008 - 3:39pm

Mandi,

If he's a jerk, that means that he's NOT going to take responsibility and admit he was wrong (and considering the way he's acting now w/ not giving you enough money to take care of you even though you have a child together, he definitely is a jerk) so stop wasting your energy. Right now, what you have to deal with is the future. You have already decided to get divorced, so really, who cares who did what in the past? It's over.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2003
Thu, 10-09-2008 - 5:02pm

MusicLover is absolutely right, Mandi.