depressed and tired

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Registered: 09-02-2008
depressed and tired
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Mon, 10-13-2008 - 5:43pm

Just need a little help!


I have been separated for 4 mos. now.

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Mon, 10-13-2008 - 8:16pm
Huggs!
I have been in and out of your situation. I work for myself and go through periods where I am just so tired. I shut down for about 6 months after STBX left. it was hard, but I couldnt do it and try to live.
if you need anyone to talk to, we can email back and forth..
Liz
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Registered: 03-30-2008
Mon, 10-13-2008 - 8:17pm

Aww sweetie,

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Registered: 07-13-2008
Mon, 10-13-2008 - 8:17pm

Hi,


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Registered: 09-02-2008
Tue, 10-14-2008 - 4:30am
I understand completely where you are coming from. I'm sorry you are going through the same thing and yes, it is gross, confusing & heartbreaking
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Registered: 09-02-2008
Tue, 10-14-2008 - 4:38am
So how did you pull yourself out of it? Make yourself go to work. Deal with angry clients? Everything is on me!! My family lives an hour and a half away. I have 2 children to support. Not to mention needing the energy to take care of them. Advice?
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Registered: 10-25-2006
Tue, 10-14-2008 - 7:53am

Mom,


Hi. Welcome to the board. We hope you find support and advice here you can use.


The key word in your post is "depressed." It is not unusual to suffer "situational depression" when dealing with very stressful events like divorce. I strongly encourage you to see your doctor for a physical and an honest discussion about how you're feeling. You've described several classic symptons of depression: poor sleep habits, poor eating habits, lack of interest in your work, inability to address the immediate needs of your job or family, etc.


Please do not let this go on! I had the very same thing happen to me after my divorce. I had never experienced depression so I didn't know what was wrong with me until it reached crisis proportions (i.e. I wanted to kill myself.). I thank God every day I had a doctor who saw what was happening and got me on medication. Taking anti-depressants is not a "life sentence" and it can make all the difference in the world for your state of mind and ability to cope. I also encourage you to find a support group or therapist with whom you can talk. It's critical to work on both the chemical and emotional imbalance you're experiencing.


Divorce is a very, very tough form of rejection. It will make your question everything about yourself and it can pound you into dust. The most important thing you can do at this point is get that help both medical and emotional so you can get through each day. I promise, this too shall pass, in the meantime don't be "brave" and try to do this yourself.


I also think you'd benefit from a book I've read and recommended many many times to others going through divorce. It's called, "Rebuilding: When your relationship ends." by Bruce Fisher.


Please post again and let us know how you're doing. This road is long and hard but it will get better. Promise!


CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Tue, 10-14-2008 - 7:34pm

I had to take time off, then I was scared to get back in, so I let my sister take over, but she was failing, and I didn't want that to happen, so I got back into it, just to help her and realize I could do it! and it felt good to reclaim that part of me. Maybe its too soon for you, maybe you need a break? It is better to take a break on your own terms than have to shut down because of too many angry clients, which loose business and hurt you worse than a break in the long run.
you can email me anytime ltinkham3743@gmail.com

Liz