Why did it hit me so hard?

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Registered: 09-01-2008
Why did it hit me so hard?
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Sun, 10-19-2008 - 7:13pm
So, I haven't been here in a couple of weeks, but my husband's actions this weekend hit me really hard. My husband left me and our four children two and a half months ago(August 3) after 15 years of marriage. He told me he didn't love me anymore. We had been fighting over the summer because he was having an emotional affair with a co-worker, but other than that we have never had any problems. Anyway, I found out that he went out of town yesterday with someone. I know he told me that he has slept with someone else since he left, but he said it was he was drinking and angry at me over not seeing the kids one weekend (that wasn't his weekend anyway). Whatever - I guess just sleeping with someone didn't really bother me that much because I still rationalized to myself that he was just figuring stuff out, but to be with someone all day and confined to a car for several hours suggests to me that he is really interested in this person. It just feels so bad. I still love him so much. He has always been my best friend, we still even text message almost every day. We haven't filed for divorce, but he told me he was going to wait for me to do or in February, after the beginning of the year. Has anybody else had this happen? Is it strange for this to hit me so hard emotionally? Thanks.
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Registered: 01-09-2008
Sun, 10-19-2008 - 10:30pm

I have had a similar situation.