Well I must say even I am angry at your STBX after reading your post! What he is doing is not only morally wrong, but possibly detrimental to your children and their wellbeing! When two people separate, they need to put their children first, and the fact that he is doing that only a week after you separated shows his utter lack of concern for your children. I also have to question what kind of woman would a.) allow her child to be introduced to a man who's only been separated from his wife one week and b.) has so little class that she would sleep in the same bed and with that man! I can sympathize with how you're feeling, but please try to stay focused on your children.
Arrange to have the locks changed. Notify the landlord what may be going on, as it may violate the terms of your lease. He or she may want to check to make sure there isn't an unauthorized tenant (the GF) living there and will have to agree to changing the locks--and might well foot the bill. And call your attorney. See if you have to let your STBX have visitation prior to a custody agreement or some other legal step. It may be possible to set up supervised visitation. He's proven himself to be untrustworthy, and though he may be trying to push your buttons to retaliate for you ending the marriage, he is not making mature, responsible decisions about your kids' welfare. You are putting them first, like the good mom you are.
Since he has shown such poor judgment, I wouldn't let him see the kids until you have a court order (unless there is some way you can assure yourself that the GF won't be there) and ask for it to be in the court order that no visitation w/ the GF at least until the divorce is final. I guess he probably figures that they are so little they can be fooled but one week after the parents separate to be introducing them to a new GF and having her sleep over while they are at his house is just plain wrong. I assume that you & the kids moved out of your old apt and he is still there. Ask the LL if he will allow you to take your name off the leas & rewrite a new lease w/ just your DH's name on there. If not, you can have it put into the div agreement that he will be responsible for the lease payments. As far as getting your things (I assume you mean things like clothes and other possessions that are clearly yours), first of all ask him if you can come & get your stuff and arrange to get it all out. Otherwise, you would have to get a court order.
Its been longer for me, we have been separated for almost a year, but my STBX has been having his new ho sleep over for the past few weekends, the kids tell me, and my poor baby sleeps in the same room!!! (we have 2 together and I have 2 from a previous, he takes them off and on when its convenient for him) AND he told the kids it was his cousin!!! Today he was driving in said ho's car and my daughter said something about it and he said it was his sisters, and she said he was lying and he left... Talk about confusing!! Already called my lawyer and forwarded a letter to our Guardian Ad Litem,. she wont like that one bit....
I am so sorry you're dealing with his BS and lack of consideration not only for you, but for the children too. They are WAY too young to be exposed to that. And how sad that he is so needy sexually that he'd do that to your young children.
My advice...because I've somewhat been there:
1) Stop visitation.
2) Get an attorney.
3) Let him try to ask for visitation. When/if he does,
I don't have advice on this, just anger at your ex on your behalf. Man, what a basXXXXX! A week and he's already exposing the kids to that AND even that serious with someone. He sounds like a user and very irresponsible. Good luck to you, you deserve better!
Its been longer for me, we have been separated for almost a year, but my STBX has been having his new ho sleep over for the past few weekends, the kids tell me, and my poor baby sleeps in the same room!!! (we have 2 together and I have 2 from a previous, he takes them off and on when its convenient for him) AND he told the kids it was his cousin!!! Today he was driving in said ho's car and my daughter said something about it and he said it was his sisters, and she said he was lying and he left... Talk about confusing!! Already called my lawyer and forwarded a letter to our Guardian Ad Litem,. she wont like that one bit....
Liz
I am so sorry you're dealing with his BS and lack of consideration not only for you, but for the children too. They are WAY too young to be exposed to that. And how sad that he is so needy sexually that he'd do that to your young children.
My advice...because I've somewhat been there:
1) Stop visitation.
2) Get an attorney.
3) Let him try to ask for visitation. When/if he does,