I'm glad you checked in Buckeye. I was thinking about you last week. I'm glad the ink is dry, but I can understand the remorse. You know my STBX is an alcoholic, so I can relate. It's just so hard for me to understand (eventhough I "get" alcoholism & addiction) how he could choose alcohol over our children and me.
I want to say this as nicely as possible cause after spending years w/ an alcoholic husband, you deserve some happiness, but I think that maybe you having a BF very soon after the split w/ your ex is also adding to your DS' moods. I don't know--does he like your BF? Do they spend time together? When I got div the 1st time, my kids were so young and at first my ex didn't have a place that they could spend the night, that I probably didn't date for 3 yrs, not that I really wanted to wait that long, but I wasn't really meeting anyone either, so eventually I got sick of staying home, and by then my ex had a GF (now his wife) so I started on-line dating. But my kids never met anyone I dated until my 2nd DH. Then my DD was 11 when we started dating and about 13 when we got married and it was difficult--she had gotten used to being the 3 of us and I don't think she would have accepted anyone, but she didn't really like my 2nd DH (ever).
My DS is now 13 and he's still in the "I love mom" stage, although we can argue about stupid stuff like whether he should wear a coat or what time to go to bed. In our weird school system, grades 5-8 are in the same school, so being in 7th grade isn't much of a transition, although they change classes more this year. Last year, they had one teacher for Math & Science and one for English & History, this year, there's a diff. one for each class. But he finds school pretty easy, so we don't have that problem, plus he's like the oldest kid in his class due to being born on Sept. 1.
I'm glad you checked in Buckeye. I was thinking about you last week. I'm glad the ink is dry, but I can understand the remorse. You know my STBX is an alcoholic, so I can relate. It's just so hard for me to understand (eventhough I "get" alcoholism & addiction) how he could choose alcohol over our children and me.
Movingonthistime,
This is such a difficult age!
My son and I have always had a pretty "open" relationship.
I want to say this as nicely as possible cause after spending years w/ an alcoholic husband, you deserve some happiness, but I think that maybe you having a BF very soon after the split w/ your ex is also adding to your DS' moods. I don't know--does he like your BF? Do they spend time together? When I got div the 1st time, my kids were so young and at first my ex didn't have a place that they could spend the night, that I probably didn't date for 3 yrs, not that I really wanted to wait that long, but I wasn't really meeting anyone either, so eventually I got sick of staying home, and by then my ex had a GF (now his wife) so I started on-line dating. But my kids never met anyone I dated until my 2nd DH. Then my DD was 11 when we started dating and about 13 when we got married and it was difficult--she had gotten used to being the 3 of us and I don't think she would have accepted anyone, but she didn't really like my 2nd DH (ever).
My DS is now 13 and he's still in the "I love mom" stage, although we can argue about stupid stuff like whether he should wear a coat or what time to go to bed. In our weird school system, grades 5-8 are in the same school, so being in 7th grade isn't much of a transition, although they change classes more this year. Last year, they had one teacher for Math & Science and one for English & History, this year, there's a diff. one for each class. But he finds school pretty easy, so we don't have that problem, plus he's like the oldest kid in his class due to being born on Sept. 1.