I think my marriage is over
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I think my marriage is over
| Mon, 10-20-2008 - 9:11pm |
Hello, I am a newbie to this type of board. I am having the worst night of my life. I think my marriage just ended a few minutes ago. My husband had just walked out the door. The day started normally until we both came home from work. I logged on to the computer to send photos to my family and stumbled upon a couple of sexy pictures of girls that he looked at before from random sites. I completely blew out of the water because I thought he would be open to me about this stuff. Then I found out that he looks at porn sometimes. We talked about this before and I told him that I don’t care as long as he’s honest with me that he looks at it. It’s been a couple of years and I happily thought that I kept him so satisfied that he didn’t need to look at it. Or so I thought. When I found out about it tonight, it made me even more furious. I always thought he could be open and honest to me about these things. He never once told me that he still looks at porn or sexy pictures. In fact, I think he deletes the history and other files to maintain this “illusion” that he doesn’t search for this anymore. I would not be upset if I knew he does this every once in a while. I said some really nasty things to him and one that crossed the line. I told him to leave and he left. I am heartbroken and sobbing as I am typing. I am scared and in need of advice if this marriage is salvageable and what could be done to potentially save it. Please help me.

I agree with momofmandn. Would you really end your marriage over some porn? It seems like a silly thing to end it over. I mean wouldn't you rather he look at porn on the computer than other real women? Or is there something else? Are you looking for a reason or excuse to get out? Are you really unhappy in the marriage and using this "lie" as a reason to end it? I think some introspection is in order. Good luck figuring out what it is you want, but as someone who has been walked out on, don't use this as an excuse - be honest about what the real problems are, it will be better for both of you if you just have the truth.