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| Thu, 10-23-2008 - 1:17am |
My hubby and I have been separated since Fathers day of this year. I was going to move back with him in August (he had come to his senses). But, now he is saying he wants the divorce.
Some background......He told me in May that he was in love with one of my friends, who he worked with, who was also married (she did not have the same feelings). He had been feeling this way since February. We went to a counseling service together, and I thought things were okay with us. And then he comes home one night and freaks out because I supposedly "stabbed" him in the back. So he told me to call my family and have them come pack my stuff up (mind you my family lives in NY, and we lived in SC). So, they came and got me fathers day weekend. Now, we get to NY....and he is saying that he wants nothing to do with me, except for our daughter K. Then, he comes up to NY to visit with his family, and decides that he wants to work things out. Which is fine. But, then I got cold feet, I didn't want to get hurt again. Because he is in the Air Force, and knew he would be going over seas for 4 months, and I didn't know if I really wanted to be in SC by myself for 4 months till he got back. So I told him I didn't think I could do this NOW....And I think he said something like I would still be second to this other girl....but I don't know if he really did being as I was crying so hard I couldn't hear him. So, now its October, and he is saying that when he gets back in Feb, we are getting a divorce. But, I still don't want one. I love him more than anything on this freaking planet (except for our daughter). How do you try to convince someone that getting a divorce when BOTH parties are not 100% is not right? I want him back so badly....can anyone help me??????????




It's late so I will make this brief for now.