Is this okay for now?

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Registered: 03-05-2003
Is this okay for now?
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Thu, 10-23-2008 - 11:04am

H moved out on Saturday so I am pretty new at all of this.

Karry - - who is learning to embrace life on her own raising her miracle, Carley Paige

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Fri, 10-24-2008 - 1:52pm
That sounds pretty reasonable to me.
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Registered: 03-05-2003
Fri, 10-24-2008 - 2:13pm
Thanks for your response!

Karry - - who is learning to embrace life on her own raising her miracle, Carley Paige

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Registered: 09-01-2008
Fri, 10-24-2008 - 5:41pm
This is almost the exact situation my husband and I are living under. Me and the kids stayed in the house - my husband moved in with his brother and is keeping $400 per payday for living expenses. It is tight - it sucks. But then again, everything about this sucks. My H gets the kids every Wednesday- he keeps them at our house and I stay away. That is hard for both of us - hard for me to be completely comfortable with him here alone - he moves a little more stuff out every time and it is always hard to come back and figure out what he moved out this week - and he says it is emotionally hard for him to stay here - makes him miss everyone more - too bad, shouldn't have walked out! Anyway, we are also not filing until next year. I think whatever works best for you guys is the best way to work through this!
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Registered: 10-25-2008
Sat, 10-25-2008 - 1:23pm
No matter how amicable you are now, it is not a good idea for you to both use the same attorney. When it finally comes down to the property settlement and other money issues, people tend to be not so amicable. My H and I are still friendly and we lived in the same house for four months after I asked him for a divorce, but now that I moved out and the property settlement is near, I think he is going to freak out when he finds out how much the State agrees that I'm entitled to. Also, you need to consider if you will be able to afford upkeep on the family home if you get the house after the divorce. Figure in your income and what your expectations for alimony and child support are.
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Registered: 03-05-2003
Sat, 10-25-2008 - 1:32pm
Thanks!

Karry - - who is learning to embrace life on her own raising her miracle, Carley Paige

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Sun, 10-26-2008 - 8:45pm

is there a particular reason why your DD is only seeing her dad twice a week? why not closer to 50/50?

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Registered: 03-05-2003
Mon, 10-27-2008 - 7:47am
I have always been her primary caregiver that is why we agreed to this arrangement for now.

Karry - - who is learning to embrace life on her own raising her miracle, Carley Paige