Putting the past in the past
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Putting the past in the past
| Fri, 10-24-2008 - 10:46am |
Well, it's not as easy as I thought it would be.
| Fri, 10-24-2008 - 10:46am |
Well, it's not as easy as I thought it would be.
I think it's the ending of an era that gets us Buckeye. The ending of the dream of the perfect family. The ending of our child(ren) with a two parent home. The holiday memories will be different. The shuffling back and forth of time/weekends with the EX. Etc. Etc. Etc. It's just all so darn different. And we all need time to adjust.
I'm glad your new BF is a doll and treats you well. I hope for that some day when I'm ready. Enjoy!! And hang in there. Time heals all wounds (or so "they" say).
I know, it's hard.
You seem to have the mindset of many women who have been with a drunken, no-good husband; that you don't DESERVE to be treated well, or that maybe the way he acted was somehow your fault. The truth of the matter is that EVERY WOMAN, especially you who put up with all that nonsense for so long, DESERVES TO BE TREATED LIKE A QUEEN. That is what a real loving relationship is about; both partners showing love and respect by taking care of the other and making the other feel good about herself/himself. Otherwise, why be involved at all?
The past always looks great twenty years later, even if it wasn't. That's because our memories tend to forget the bad parts and focus on the good stuff. So start concentrating on the here and now, and enjoy yourself!! You deserve it, after what you've been through.
This divorce thing is harder than I ever thought but I need to count my blessing every day because I am not ready to have a boyfriend.. but I met a wonderful gay man several months ago who is very masculine, cares about me and treats me well. We go out to dinner or on a hike about once a week for a few hours and we talk on the phone often. It is the perfect male companion to help me in this very difficult time.
I was going on craigslist when I felt lonely though but just found this forum. Thanks everyone for your honesty. It is so good to find others who share the same hurts and frustrations with the S2BX's.