Update!

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Registered: 07-02-2008
Update!
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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 11:50am
So STBX and I met with our respective lawyers yesterday to go over the div. agreement he and I came up with. Everything looks good, and STBX's lawyer is writing up the agreement. We easily agreed on most aspects of the agreement, although there was some real contention when it came to his retirement- told him I refused to budge on that part, and he finally relented. I am relieved in so many ways. Glad that the what if's and uncertainty about what's going to happen are hopefully past me. I reflect back to three months ago when he first left. I was in such a dark place, and never thought we would be at this point. So to all the people just starting this journey, yes, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. It hurts like hell at first, but I'm living proof that even that gets better. I'll admit that I still feel sad or nostalgic at times, but I'm looking forward to the future. If I had to impart one piece of wisdom from what I've learned about this process, it's that you heal the way you allow yourself to heal. Anyhow, divorce will likely be finalized around the end of November, but I'll keep you all posted!
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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: mandi_d_o
Tue, 10-28-2008 - 12:23pm
Thanks for the update!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: mandi_d_o
Tue, 10-28-2008 - 1:31pm
I'm glad things worked out for you. Now you can relax & get on w/ your life.
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Registered: 07-29-2003
In reply to: mandi_d_o
Tue, 10-28-2008 - 3:49pm

*doing a little happy dance for you*