It so hard to do

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Registered: 03-19-2008
It so hard to do
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Fri, 10-31-2008 - 4:36pm

I need to file for divorce, my H left in February after 6.5 years together to go live with a woman he works with.

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Registered: 10-10-2003
Sat, 11-01-2008 - 9:19am
Hi doublesmommy, I can relate to you, I too will have to file in January. My STBX left me and my kids last Nov its coming up on a year. He too is living with his OW, she has 6 kids, 3 still at home with one of her sons GF living with them and a young daughter who is 5. I also tried to talk to him, make sense of it, kept thinking he would wake up and wonder what the hell hes done. We had almost made it to our 27th Wedding Anniversary. I didn't want to file either, but he wont, and in order for me to move on I need too. Its so hard to do when you know with every fiber of your being that hes making a mistake. MY STBX even told me he realizes hes made a mistake, messed things up but will have to live with it. Even told me then that he loves me, if thats his idea of "love" IM much better off without it! I know its the right thing for me to do, to end it, get it over with, but still in the back of my mind its like IM fighting it because I really dont want it. And I cant believe that he wants it either, but I feel like he thinks hes messed up too much and we cant go back. I dont know if I made any sense to you, but we at least can come here and vent and read others tales and know we are not alone. IM thankful that my kids are older, I feel for you I know yours little. But remember that God never closes one door with out opening a window! And He will never give you any burden that you cant handle! hang in there! ~Mary~