Why can't he get it???
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| Tue, 07-06-2004 - 9:51pm |
I dropped off the kids the other day, and he threw a fit because I wouldn't stay for his 4th of July cook out thing. My plan was to kill a little time there before I went to visit my sisters. He knew this. Funny, that regardless of the h*ll he put me through we are still civil. I brought my best friend so that I didn't feel uncomfortable. although I hate his family and they were all there. (Sorry, but anyone that lies in court for a man that beats a woman regardless if it's your son I have a hard time with!)Anyway, his girlfriend got smart and left him, but now he is in his depressed mode all over again! I hate it.
You ladies know the situation I recently had with my SO and us breaking it off. Since then we've talked on the phone, and I believe that there's going to be a great friendship there. We both mean a lot to each other and hope there might a chance one day (once he grows up, and I get baptized) but until then we will be friends. He even bought me and the kids a bunch of movies yesterday, and me a very expensive pair of shoes, I've been saving up for! He said it was because he was glad we can be friends, and because he just wanted to say thank you for how much I cared for him for the last year. But, in all I'm okay! I stopped crying and calling, and I'm okay with it because I've never had a hard time being single. I'm single, but not alone! I have the unconditional love of my children. I wish my ex would realize that! If he would focus his energy on realizing that he is loved even if it's (only) from his kids,(that's what he would probably say)he wouldn't be such a miserable person. He doesn't realize what a gift that is. I see it and cherish it, even more so at times like this.
My main goal now is to spend more time with my babies then I ever have, and spend the extra time I now have to redoing my attic into a bigger bedroom for my older boys so they can have their privacy from the little one's like I've been planning for the last year. My little one's can turn their old room to a play room!! I just wish he could do that, and leave me alone. He should realize that after all the court and custody battles (he tried to take my children becuase he didn't want to pay support, and because I have a better job he could use the money, that was his reasoning!!) that I would never even think about an "US"!!! Just the word, in reference to him and I makes me want to puke!

I think this is what you are basically saying, condensing here:
"I just wish he could leave me alone. He should realize
I guess I don't understand why you are saying "Why won't he leave me alone?"
What is he doing to jerk you around? YOU decided to go to his house and stay for a BBQ. YOU allowed him to know that you had time to kill. You are sharing much more of your life with him than you should be if you want space/distance from him.
there might a chance one day (once he grows up, and I get baptized) Ok, I just have to make
I think it's a great idea, now that you and your SO have broken up, to emerge yourself in a house project. Keeping busy always helps keep your mind off of things. Plus, you will have such a sense of accomplishment when you are done. I am in the middle of a woodworking project. I don't have the kids this weekend, and my SO is out of town. So I plan on trying to finish it this weekend. I can't wait for it to be done because I know it will make my house look so much better. Good luck on your project and keep us posted on how it's going.
Donna
Your projects sound wonderful. Press on and you will be in greener pastures sooner than you think.