For those without an SO or for those

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For those without an SO or for those
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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 12:08pm
that still remember the single life when you didn't have a SO.

This one is for those of us, who are still in the dating world without a SO, but for those that remember some glory days of being single. What were they?

What are 3 or more things you enjoy about being single?

Flirting shamelessly

Going out with friends

Enjoying my TV programs or a great chic flick and not fighting over the remote

Not having to have sex when I don't feel like it or making an excuse(I have a headache) or getting into a discussion about why I am not in the mood

Wearing whatever I feel like without getting the "isn't that a bit to revealing?"

No jealousy tantrums

No curfue which means no discussion of why I decided to be out with friends several hours over my curfue than planned.

The list goes on and on, but I would like to hear some of yours. Next question.....



What are the things you do just because you know a guy won't come by?

I leave my dirty underwear lying around and put on my face masks while running around in the nude. Scarey after two kids! LOL





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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 07-08-2004 - 12:39pm
I still remember it . . . .

Things I LOVED - - -

having no one question me when I had a bowl of cereal or a carton of Ben and Jerry's for dinner.

Going out for a night on the town with my girlfriends and not spending a single penny.

On the weekends I didn't have my son (which was every other) - sleeping in until 1, going to the bookstore, spending time with my girlfriends, and staying up until 4 am with my nose in my book and a glass of wine in my hand.

Listening to whatever music I wanted to listen to - without having to endure comments from the peanut gallery.

Being able to make EVERY decision without consulting someone - from buying the new couch I wanted, decorating my bedroom in lilac, and adopting a cat from the shelter.

Things I did when I knew I wasn't expecting anyone - I ALWAYS had a roommate. ALWAYS. Either that or I was married or living with my parents. LOL So I didn't really get to do that. At all. I have told Tim several times that when the kids are grown and gone - I know this sounds so ridiculously silly - if we are well-off, I would LOVE to have a little studio apartment that I decorated as I want and that was MINE. I'm not sure how much I would use it - but it's always been something I have wanted.

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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 12:46pm

Things I enjoyed about being single:


Self-discovery.

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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 4:34pm
I still remember it too, and I had a great time being a single mom.

I can sum it all up to one great thing: FREEDOM!

Freedom to flirt with wild abandon!

Freedom to go out with three different guys in one week! :)

Freedom to crank up my stereo and choreograph entire dance routines in my living room :)

Freedom to rent 5 John Cusack movies and stay up all night watching them without anyone telling me I'm crazy!

Freedom to order pizza instead of cooking a healthy meal.

Freedom to make my own decisions without having to explain them to anyone (Except maybe my daughter.

~pure delicious freedom~

One thing I miss the most- the freedom to just pick up and go. I can't do that anymore. There is always going to be somebody wondering if I'm coming back.;) When I was single, I used to day dream about taking my daughter and just relocating somewhere for a fresh start...Back then it was a real possibility. Now, it's a little harder to do with others involved.

Things I used to do because I knew a guy wouldn't be coming by? Masturbate! (blush)

ha ha!

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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 5:48pm

ok, my turn.


I left all of my clothes (clean and dirty) laying about my bedroom. I never used to bother to pick up unless it was laundry day.


I lived

Becky

 

 

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Fri, 07-09-2004 - 2:49am
After 10 years of a disappointing marriage I went crazy with so much freedom from someone who was jealous of me and stifled me and did not meet my emotional needs.

- Exercise a ton

- Cook whatever I want, eat very healthy

- The house and bathrooms stay much cleaner; less laundry to do

- Not spend a ton of money eating out

- Not have to put up with inlaws that I dislike

- Not have to buy presents for inlaws

- Not have to go on vacation with inlaws

- Be frugal on things that don't matter, spend a lot on things that matter

- Have new and fun interesting friends

- Take up new interests and discover myself

- Go on wild clothes shopping sprees

- Not have to have sex when not in the mood

- No need to worry about birth control

- Not have to listen to someone's boring work stories

- Go to bed early, get up early

- No one touches or moves my stuff in the house

- Read tons of books

- Watch chick flicks

- No disappointment/emotional pain from selfish husband

- Can decorate house any way I want

- No rules, judgements, opinions

- Can play any music

WHOA - that is a list. Now I am a happy princess in my castle waiting for Mr. Right - I have found myself and will not mold myself for someone else. They have to make me happy instead of me worrying all about pleasing them.



Edited 7/9/2004 8:04 am ET ET by weston1745


Edited 7/9/2004 1:40 pm ET ET by weston1745

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Fri, 07-09-2004 - 6:17am
Way to go everyone! I loved reading those comments! Anyone else out their willing to share. I am going to enjoy my first weekend in two months, free from a man again and I am looking forward to it! Doing the stuff I love during the day, going out tonight and tomorrow night with friends and enjoying doing everything and anything I want without consulting, explaining or phoning. Yahooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Registered: 12-19-2002
Fri, 07-09-2004 - 9:43am

West, your first marriage sounds just like my first marriage!

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Fri, 07-09-2004 - 9:45am
Catherine, your weekend plans sound great!!
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Fri, 07-09-2004 - 11:03am
Hey Maggie,

It gladdens my heart to see that you could be so happy now you forgot about inlaws. They were a nightmare but I know everyone doesn't always have that to bear. How refreshing!! You have given me so much hope.

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Fri, 07-09-2004 - 2:21pm
sorry, did you say CURFEW???? LOL

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