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| Thu, 07-08-2004 - 12:08pm |
This one is for those of us, who are still in the dating world without a SO, but for those that remember some glory days of being single. What were they?
What are 3 or more things you enjoy about being single?
Flirting shamelessly
Going out with friends
Enjoying my TV programs or a great chic flick and not fighting over the remote
Not having to have sex when I don't feel like it or making an excuse(I have a headache) or getting into a discussion about why I am not in the mood
Wearing whatever I feel like without getting the "isn't that a bit to revealing?"
No jealousy tantrums
No curfue which means no discussion of why I decided to be out with friends several hours over my curfue than planned.
The list goes on and on, but I would like to hear some of yours. Next question.....
What are the things you do just because you know a guy won't come by?
I leave my dirty underwear lying around and put on my face masks while running around in the nude. Scarey after two kids! LOL

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Things I LOVED - - -
having no one question me when I had a bowl of cereal or a carton of Ben and Jerry's for dinner.
Going out for a night on the town with my girlfriends and not spending a single penny.
On the weekends I didn't have my son (which was every other) - sleeping in until 1, going to the bookstore, spending time with my girlfriends, and staying up until 4 am with my nose in my book and a glass of wine in my hand.
Listening to whatever music I wanted to listen to - without having to endure comments from the peanut gallery.
Being able to make EVERY decision without consulting someone - from buying the new couch I wanted, decorating my bedroom in lilac, and adopting a cat from the shelter.
Things I did when I knew I wasn't expecting anyone - I ALWAYS had a roommate. ALWAYS. Either that or I was married or living with my parents. LOL So I didn't really get to do that. At all. I have told Tim several times that when the kids are grown and gone - I know this sounds so ridiculously silly - if we are well-off, I would LOVE to have a little studio apartment that I decorated as I want and that was MINE. I'm not sure how much I would use it - but it's always been something I have wanted.
Mindy
http://cosmosandcranium.blogspot.com/
Things I enjoyed about being single:
Self-discovery.
I can sum it all up to one great thing: FREEDOM!
Freedom to flirt with wild abandon!
Freedom to go out with three different guys in one week! :)
Freedom to crank up my stereo and choreograph entire dance routines in my living room :)
Freedom to rent 5 John Cusack movies and stay up all night watching them without anyone telling me I'm crazy!
Freedom to order pizza instead of cooking a healthy meal.
Freedom to make my own decisions without having to explain them to anyone (Except maybe my daughter.
~pure delicious freedom~
One thing I miss the most- the freedom to just pick up and go. I can't do that anymore. There is always going to be somebody wondering if I'm coming back.;) When I was single, I used to day dream about taking my daughter and just relocating somewhere for a fresh start...Back then it was a real possibility. Now, it's a little harder to do with others involved.
Things I used to do because I knew a guy wouldn't be coming by? Masturbate! (blush)
ha ha!
ok, my turn.
I left all of my clothes (clean and dirty) laying about my bedroom. I never used to bother to pick up unless it was laundry day.
I lived
- Exercise a ton
- Cook whatever I want, eat very healthy
- The house and bathrooms stay much cleaner; less laundry to do
- Not spend a ton of money eating out
- Not have to put up with inlaws that I dislike
- Not have to buy presents for inlaws
- Not have to go on vacation with inlaws
- Be frugal on things that don't matter, spend a lot on things that matter
- Have new and fun interesting friends
- Take up new interests and discover myself
- Go on wild clothes shopping sprees
- Not have to have sex when not in the mood
- No need to worry about birth control
- Not have to listen to someone's boring work stories
- Go to bed early, get up early
- No one touches or moves my stuff in the house
- Read tons of books
- Watch chick flicks
- No disappointment/emotional pain from selfish husband
- Can decorate house any way I want
- No rules, judgements, opinions
- Can play any music
WHOA - that is a list. Now I am a happy princess in my castle waiting for Mr. Right - I have found myself and will not mold myself for someone else. They have to make me happy instead of me worrying all about pleasing them.
Edited 7/9/2004 8:04 am ET ET by weston1745
Edited 7/9/2004 1:40 pm ET ET by weston1745
West, your first marriage sounds just like my first marriage!
It gladdens my heart to see that you could be so happy now you forgot about inlaws. They were a nightmare but I know everyone doesn't always have that to bear. How refreshing!! You have given me so much hope.
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