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| Sat, 07-10-2004 - 12:13pm |
I thought hard all day about many variables and in consideration of not having a job, my family reunion this month and the fact that there is another race next month, and knowing that he would need pondering time since I was putting my foot down, I had a plan that I felt was reasonable. I called him and told him that I would still ike to see him and that was it. Be over at 7:30
He arrived and took Alyse and me to the Rainforest Cafe. At the beginning of dinner I told him again that I wanted a real commitment from him and that I would give him one month to the day to decide. I told him that if he did stay with me and make a commitment that he better make it good and at that point I would have to be officially introduced to his family. I made it clear that didn't mean I was looking for a ring - although I said I wouldnt' mind hahaha - I told him I wanted him to commit to a goal of us being together and working toward engagement and marriage. I told him I wouldn't bring it up again during that month but he was welcome to bring it up and talk about it with me if he wanted. He looked ---not upset but not happy - just realized that this was serious. I told him that I was dead serious and that come Aug 9th he better know what he wants. He agreed that was fair and told me he felt I wasn't being pushy or reasonable.
Then we went on and had a great evening. Of course in the back of my mind I kept thinking that this could be the last bit I get to be with him and that made me sad. I would say that I am preparing for the worst. I don't have much faith in him deciding to be with us for whatever reason. Just safe that way. He did tell me later that he appreciated how I was doing this. he said that talking about things to death makes it harder for him. He was happy I was brief and to the point and was allowing him time to reflect on it. Beats me what he has BEEN doing! Maybe that is it though - I have allowed this and allowed him to be comfortable. So he gets one month.
He will still come to my reunion and everything will be business as usual. By Aug 9th if I am going to the race he has to tell them that day at the latest because you need to reserve VIP tickets 12 days in advance because of security check.
So there you have it. Wish me luck ladies that I can handle the outcome of my ultimatum. This isn't going to be easy :(
Laura

Of course I wish you luck.
I know this isn't easy - but either way you are going to win. If he wants to commit to something more long term than that is good. And if he doesn't that is also good because you won't be wasting any more time with him.
You were more than reasonable and very pleasant!
(((((((Laura))))))))
Just thinking of you and hoping for the best.
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