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And you think I have low self esteem
| Sat, 07-10-2004 - 11:14pm |
well I wonder why. My mother.... I am so upset right now. I have been a free spirit kind of person my whole life. I looked at having a child WITH SOMEONE and now I ust feel over my head. My daughter is almost 3 and she is a TERROR but seems so angelic to everyone else. I feel so tired and cheated and get nothing and no time for myself - I am hating it. Screw being a SAHM - my god I might put a gun to my head! My daughter is crazy and my mom is offering me advice (all things I either do or have tried BTW) and because none of that works and I am upset and tell her now it seem all people are rude and mean lately, telling her about how rude people were are poison control last week when I had to call there about my dog - she (being the loving mother she is) turns it on me and tells me how it is me and my bad attitide or lack of sweetness or whatever. I had been telling her for 10 minutes I wanted to not talk anymore because I saw the turn and knew the destination. It ended with me screaming that I didn't want to talk anymore (I had said it 10 rimes already) and hung up.
What is wrong with me? Why is she so hateful? No wonder I let people walk all over me or I cling to anyone nice - everyone who supposed loves me doesn't even know me or treats me like poo.
:( thanks for the vent. I love my mom but God - does she really think that helps???
L

First of all, I think your three year old is just being a three year old. Remember, three is just one year older than TWO!! It will get better, I promise. Part of this is probably because of all the stress you have been going through with your SO and the first thing to show is the child's behavior from not enough quality time and patience from mom (you).
Second, with regards to your mom you have to stop telling her things that will get you in a fight. I have discovered this with my parents. I only tell them what they want to hear. Anything else is counter productive because they are never going to see my life the way I see it and are not supportive or in agreement when it comes to things like divorce and child rearing. And I never let them speak to me in a way that upsets me. If they do that then I get off the phone and refuse to see them for a while. Believe me, with this they learned very fast.
I feel that I have a burden enough with being a single mom. I am not going to let my parents or anyone bring me stress like that and neither should you.
Bring your worries and troubles to your friends and the board. Tell your mom only good things. Get more sleep/time to yourself!! Then you will be a better, more patient mom and your daughter will turn into a little angel.
Ugh!
OMG! My Mom drives me crazy..in a different way, but she is a royal PITA sometimes.
Kim
I'm new here, but I figured I'd send you my sympathies!! I agree with the other posts. Your three year old is just being, well a three year old! It is no reflection on you or your mothering abilities.
As for your mom, do with her like I do with mine, only tell her certain things. Happy things, things that will not cause fights. My mom will listen to me and sympathize with me one moment and then tell me that I'm going to be alone all my life and no one will ever want me cause I am divorced and have a child. Then she'll turn back around and tell me how I will find Mr. Right and he'll love me for who I am...
Hang in there!! and we are always here to listen!