Going Crazy!!!
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| Sun, 07-11-2004 - 9:44pm |
Recently their dad has been taking them every other weekend and now that I'm 28 I think I deserve it (don't you) and I planned on going, but it's so hard for me to save with 4 kids!! Anyway, he came home today, and before going to his house he headed straight to mine. I was shocked to see him at the door...even more tan, and looking so good!!! He said he had to see me and asked if we could talk. It has been extremely hot around here, and we were sitting in my living room when he took off his shirt after he asked if it was okay. OH MY GOODNESS!!! I acted like it didn't faze me and just talked to him and we sat holding hands, and he just sat looking at me and telling me he missed my beautiful face!
I find myself going crazy now thinking how badly I want to kiss him! All he told me was that he missed me so much and that he had to see me. He wasn't pushy, he brought presents for the kids as usual and he just kept telling me I was beautiful. Luckily I was looking pretty cute today! I bought a little red sporty skirt at the mall for myself yesterday and had it on with a little white tank top. I thought I might have gained a little too much weight to wear something like that, but I looked nice. ( I'm not a big girl, for having four kids, I only weigh 126, but I'm hispanic, so I have J-Lo syndrome, but he likes it..HA!)If I gain weight, it goes on the hips. But anyway, back to him... I just had to vent because I can't stand it! He knows his chest is my weakness.. WHY DOES THIS MAN DO THIS TO ME?? It's torture! I wish I hadn't seen him because now I feel like I'm back to where I was and wanting to be with him and it hurts. I'm depressed, and this cheesecake is almost gone!!

Hi!
BUT there is more to life than beauty. Unfortunately our criteria for dating needs to be a little more involved than that. Personally I think you can do whatever you want IF you don't have any expectations. That is my problem. I have them - I can't help it. Anytime things are "fixed" it is only temporarily. Eventually you get the point that it is ridiculous and no amount of sexy chest flashing will fix it.
If you give in you are setting a tone for your relationship though - how will he take anything you want seriously if you are not strong enough to remain focused on getting it? Beware of giving in without getting something back!
((((HUGS)))) I feel for you believe me. Right now I am just rying to get in as much sex as possibile before I have to dump him on the 9th (well I will techinally be dumped since I gave him the ultimatum)
As you can see I am expecting the worse - men really need to hit rock bottom before they see the light - I haven't met ONE yet that didn't - but then don't we have to as well (otherwise that body wouldn't be driving you wild LOL)
GL!
L
I'm sorry but this sounds like some sick game the two of you are playing.
In January, I ended a relationship with a man that was verbally abusive, but I knew that if I continued with him, he probably would have hurt me. I changed the locks to my house so he couldn't come in. But he still called. And I still talked to him when he called. While you have a situation where your ex is "the most gorgeous man in the world", my ex wasn't that -- but he did have something he could use to get to me -- my house. He was a carpenter and an auto mechanic. My house is over 40 years old and my car was 10 years old. Whenever anything went wrong with the house or the car, I called him for help. Until one day a friend of my sat me down and told me that if I didn't cut off all contact with him, he would always be in my life. She was right, and she gave me the kick in the butt that I needed to get tough. I stopped answering his calls. On the night before Easter, he showed up at my house, yelling and acting stupid, so I called the police. He left before they arrived, but that was the last time I had contact with him.
First, you have to decide if you and him are really over. Sounds like you're not sure. Second, if you are sure, then you have to cut off ALL contact. If he calls, hang up or don't pick up the phone. If he comes to the door, don't answer it. If he e-mails you, delete it. And if he still doesn't get it, get the police involved. The more contactyou allow him to have with you, the more he will try to sweet talk you and worm his way back in. He knows your weak spots, and he will use them against you. I know this sounds harsh, but like I said, it worked for me. The situations are different, but like I said, my ex used my weak spots to get to me. He would say that I would never make it without him, that I would lose my house, all my money and my kids. Fat chance. The only thing I lost when I kicked him out was all the stress and depression I had when he was around. Please be tough for you and for your kids. I know it sounds harsh, but you have to get mean or he will never get the picture. Cut off all contact and he won't be able to bother you any more. Good luck.
Donna