Single and hating it
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Single and hating it
| Mon, 07-12-2004 - 10:25am |
I am 26. Recently divorced a year ago. I was with my ex-husband for 9 years, married 7 and we have 3 kids together. Eight months ago I met a wonderful man. He has a great sense of humor, always keeps me smiling. We talk everyday and have long, meaningful conversations. He has a genunine concern for my well-being. He's cute as hell and is great n bed. We have gone out a couple of times but mostly I spend the night at his house (roughly 2-4 times a week). He brought me a toothbrush because I'm there so much. He helped me enroll in school where I'm 1/3 of the way towards graduating. we both work full-time jobs and make decent money (though he makes a lot more than me - for now). Anyway, he's always talking about how much he likes me, and cares for me. Says I have all the qualities he's looking for in a wife. BUT...I have 3 kids and he thinks the responsibility is too great. He has a son of his own and feels like he isn't really ready for a big family. He adores my kids and vice versa. He says sometimes he feels we can do it; other times he doesn't. We have an amazing friendship and I don't want to lose that but I don't know if I can continue being his friend if we aren't together. Am I being selfish or should I move on?

Hi there!
HUGS - Im questioning the very same thing- I have a guy whom I see and have a toothbrush /closet space drawers etc... and there 3-4 times a week- he has 3 kids I have 2. Im unsure too what to do and have no answers but I definitly understand your hurt and confusion
What has happened is that you both started out together agreeing to the same "ground rules", you were both enjoying a friends with benefits situation.
Welcome to the board.
I hope you will find friendship and support here.
It's going to be hard and you probably won't be able to be friends. Whatever you do don't continue sleeping with him if you call it quits. He will never change the situation, so just find a better one for yourself.