Ok ladies here is what I did---

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Registered: 04-18-2003
Ok ladies here is what I did---
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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 11:25am
Ok first did I mention I own my home--- but it is co owned with myself and my father because ex had crappy credit. Anyway I have been fighting that issue with ex - he wants the equity- he never kept a job - I am financially burdened BIGTIME by MY ex - my wages are garnished 700$ a MONTH for a vehicle he stopped paying for! SO the plan with my dad and I has been to sell the property- use equity to pay off debts and for me and the boys to start over!! Also my push or urgency was the education -schooling factor for my boys. HOWEVER I talked to parents and realtor last night and it seems we have some work to do before - so its going to be a few months down the road anyway!!

SO this is what I told Jerry (via email) - I will be selling and planning to move 6 months - very latest a year. That I will be considering all areas. I also said that I need - would like us to sit down and talk about us again at the end of the year (if nothing has been talked about before) so we can decide on if we are going to make the next step.

This sound good/fair?

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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 12:47pm

I think it sounds totally good and fair, Lizbeth.

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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 12:58pm

I think that is very reasonable. It sounds like you first off know your priorities for yourself, which makes it easier to make decisions. And then you let JERRY know what they are, and how he is/can be involved. And you didn't pressure him. You let him know where you were, what you're thinking and what kind of a time line there is (and I think it's a fair one too, btw)


Good job!


Now you can take a deep breath and just ENJOY being with him without the stress of big decisions looming.


Good for you on having a great plan in place to tie up loose strings and be finished w/the financial headaches from your previous marriage. How wonderful that your father has been so willing to help out!

Becky

Becky

 

 

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Tue, 07-13-2004 - 1:23pm

Sounds perfect!

Kim

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Registered: 03-26-2004
Tue, 07-13-2004 - 4:23pm
It sounds to me like you have a plan and I agree with Kim about looking now for the right place for the future. Keep yourself and your kids at the top of the totem pole. And chin up.

I feel sorry for you that you have these financial burdens of your ex. That is so unfair. I send best wishes that you can soldier through all of this quickly.